The answer is: can't be done. For the time being, I'm going with CoolTabs. Not nearly as elegant as Fences, but hey, you can put your icons where you want them. Function trumps form.
Add another "definitely yes" vote. This is the ONLY thing that keeps me from moving from Free to Pro, and I'm astonished that it hasn't already been done. Such an obvious -- and easy -- user-friendly fix!
Anyone know how to disable snap-to inside a fence, so that icons can be easily rerranged and placed where the user desires? Thanks! (Fences 1.01.143)
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