First of all, you can select a ship for a planet to build from the main/galaxy view by clicking on the planet and clicking the Build Ship button.
Secondly, no, you cannot queue a list of ships, although there is an option to have a planet continue building the same ship when it finishes the current ship (which I believe is on by default).
Thirdly, you can use the governors within Civilization Manager to change Starport Construction, or in other words update planets that are building ship A to build ship B instead.
Additionally, from the colony list (also accessible through Civilization Manager), you can click in the Starport column in thr row of the planet you wish to change the currently building ship for and select a ship to build.