Hello,
Sorry to hear you are having issues. I always have my fences rolled up or down to the top or the buttom of my screen. So it almost hidden away. But I think you also have a setting on Fence to set the disable "always show icons at startup". Its in Fences config -> Quick hide -> additional options : untick "Always show icons at startup" that should do it.
Basj,
Stardock Community Assistant.