OK, so after some more quality time with trying out multiple tweaks, I managed to sort it out.
One random SO question said that windows sandbox can lead to duplicate vethernet devices. Disabling it didn't work.
I eventually tried Hyper-V: in the Virtual Switch Manager I changed my external virtual switch from External to Private, and that seemed to do the trick.
I now have both the audio receiving and the seamless display work (that wasn't working either, which seemed like the same problem).
In the process of doing this I ran into a bunch of bugs & issues, I'll describe some in a different post.