, its no exscuse coz of loosing my friend to create havoc.
1: You did NOT create havoc, nowhere near it... and it's not your fault if some people are a bit thin skinned.
2: Even IF you did create havoc, which you didn't, the people with the right/responsibility to chastise you are the mods and/or admins... NOT anybody else.
3: If Jafo sees the need to chastise you, don't be too eager go jumping across his knee for a spanking... he'd enjoy it too much. 
BTW, I'm sorry to hear of your friend's passing. 